It’s a fact that it is impossible to disobey even one of God’s commands or guidelines for how we are to live without harming ourselves. The more that we make up our own rules for living the worse our families, our community, our country and our world fairs. It’s simply not ok to not love our neighbours as ourselves. It’s not ok to lie, to steal, to covet, to worry or to be anxious, to lust and fantasise about someone as a sexual object, to have affairs or to divorce and remarry.
These things and more are destructive to who we are. Justifying them blinds us to the changes in us that need to be made. Yet, these are the things for which we naturally long. So we make excuses for why we should do life our way. Jesus tells to give up our futile and foolish way of doing things.
“He who loses h/her life for My sake will find life.” Matthew 10:39.
This does not mean that we lose who we are or that we lose our will or our ability to make choices. Rather our will becomes one with the One who knows us best. We become able to choose life and life enhancing thoughts and behaviours. Dying to our natural self means that we become abundantly alive - as we were meant to live. To lose our life and to take on the life / character of Jesus is to begin functioning as fully as possible.
To lose our life and to take on the life and character of Jesus is to stop fighting against ourselves, our families and our world.
To lose our life and take up our cross to follow Jesus is to live in harmony with ourselves and with God.
To die to self, to lose the self in Christ is to lose a self-destructive bent and to gain a life- enhancing world-view.
“For the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the sinful nature. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passion and desires.” Galatians 5:17,24.