laugh at the credulity they imagine Christians to possess.
. The same people who believe that everything material came from
nothing material un caused by anything.
. The same people who have invented more
than a dozen Atheist Origin of the Universe Mythologies. Eg. Multi
tiny minority of those billions and billions of universes have their
constants set in such a way as to give rise to a universe that lasts
long enough to give rise to galaxies, stars, planets, chemistry and
hence the process of evolution.”
also defines and ridicules faith as believing something in the
complete absence of evidence. . The same people who say, "I don't know how the material universe came into being from literally nothing material without contradicting half a dozen known and accepted laws of physics, but I'm going to believe it happened that way regardless, because the alternative is not acceptable to me."
same people who believe that inanimate, inorganic gases evolved into
I'm one of the most sceptical people I know, the best and most
precious gift I've ever been given is the gift of faith. Taking the
same evidence that is before every person on the planet, the gift of
faith has allowed me to agree with the conclusion that is presented
in the Bible regarding this evidence. I do not however, have enough faith to believe the world-view of atheism.
ability to believe God's Word, to trust my Lord and my Saviour,
nothing compares in value to me.
That's not a BAD question. It's just not the RIGHT question.
. I Am God.
. I Am before anything else. . I Am above and beyond anything else. . I Am perfectly Pure, Holy and Righteous. There is nothing imperfect or "wrong" in Me.
. Anything that is in rebellion to My perfect Purity, Holiness and Righteousness can never come into My presence.
. I Am completely and utterly Just. . I Am slow to anger; filled with great patience. I Am merciful and filled with grace. . I Am Love. . Just as there cannot be the perception of up without a down, in without an out, hot without cold and light without darkness, there cannot be real Love without the option or the free-will choice to reject that love. This rejection of love, this misuse of what is good is called evil. Evil is simply the choice to misuse our free-will. Or, if you like, evil is the choice to use our free-will in a manner that our Creator has prohibited.
This is a spiritual reality or law. . Because I Am Love, there is evil rebellion against My love. . This evil has been allowed to exist first in the presence of rebellious angels. . I Am One and I Am plural with God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. . In My Spirit, I love My Son. . Love is the greatest entity to ever exist. As a gift and a blessing, I want something special for My Son to love and I want that special something to love My Son. . That something, like the angels, must be created by Me. .It is My right to declare and uphold the terms and conditions of My creation.. The special part of My creation will be human beings. They will be made in My image, possessing portions and degrees of My attributes and My characteristics. . I will make My justice and mercy known in and through human beings. I am going to create beings that are intelligent, rational, free-willed and holy. . I want humans to love (Obey) My Son because in doing so, humans will enjoy their highest, most fulfilling, most abundant state of being. . I want to reward that love with eternity in paradise, i.e. eternity in My presence. . For their love to be real, I know that humans must have the choice to not love My Son. . For their love to be real, I must allow humans the chance to rebel against My love. . If the first humans that I create love and obey Me, that love will be passed on to their offspring. That love will be inherited. It will not be a choice. “Love” will be robotic. . If the first humans that I create, rebel against My love by disobeying Me, they will reproduce after their kind and the spirit of rebellion will be passed on to their offspring. . In order for any humans to find fulfilment in truly loving Me, I must accept that all humans must first have the option of not loving Me. . No one will be able to love My Son without the help of My grace and mercy. . I will provide those of my choosing with an opportunity to love Me and to obey Me. . Through this plan I will demonstrate that I Am Love and that I Am Just. . Because of who I Am, I cannot create in humans a spirit of Love and then draw them to evil to create real choice. I can only allow rebellion / evil to enter the human race in order to create real choice, and then save those who wish to be delivered from evil. . I will draw back my hand of protection and allow this course of history to unfold. .It is My right to declare and uphold the terms and conditions of My creation.. Love causes growth. Evil and rebellion cause death and destruction. . Because I love humans, I hate the rebellion that causes their destruction.
. Those who choose to continue in a spirit of rebellion will be objects of My anger. . Objects of My anger cannot and will not be tolerated in My presence.
. For the very survival of the gift to My Son, My justice, mercy, grace, love and patience, MUST be clearly displayed to humans: a) So they will know that they should repent of their rebellion and (b) To show them that they have a place to turn to for rescue from their rebellion. - Humans will know My Justice because they know in their hearts that rebellion against Me is wrong. Those who continue in their rebellion will die spiritually and eternally. - Because all will be born into a state of rebellion, it is only My Grace that will ensure that some humans get what they don’t deserve (life in eternal paradise) while My Mercy will ensure that those same humans don’t get what they do deserve (eternal separation from Me). - They will know My Patience because I will persist in blessing those who continue in evil, until all those who are going to receive My merciful salvation have turned from their rebellion. - They will know My Love in that I, in the form of My Son, will forgive evil by taking my own punishment and suffering my own wrath for the horrible act of continued rebellion against a Creator God who is perfectly pure, holy, righteous, just, merciful, slow to anger, filled with great patience, filled with grace and abounding in Love. . I will rescue those who are not looking for Me, love those who hate Me, and make peace with those who are My enemies. . The rebellious cannot complain because they are in fact guilty of rebellion.
. The saved cannot boast because they have done nothing to deserve salvation. .It is My right to declare and uphold the terms and conditions of My creation.The real question then is not, "Why did God create billions of people who are destined to be eternally separated from Him?" The real question to be asked is: Why Did God Create and Then Save For Eternity In Paradise, Billions Of People Who Should Have Been Eternally Separated From Him.
God did not create evil. God created the opportunity to choose evil. There is no morality or virtue without a freewill choice to not be moral or virtuous. Actions have no moral value when there is no choice to do anything other than the “right” thing. Without freedom to choose right from wrong, good from bad, we cease to be human beings. It's one or the other. We are either created human, or we lose free-will. We are either created human or we lose the ability to be morally good.
know how atheists rarely venture outside of the Old Testament lest
they run into teachings of Jesus that convict them of a deep need for
forgiveness? And you know how atheists accuse Christians of
cherry-picking verses to make our case? Do you think atheists ever do
the same thing? Do you ever see or hear an atheist ranting about this?
not take interest or any profit from foreigners, but fear your God, so that
they may continue to live among you. You must not lend them money at
interest or sell them food at a profit
you lend money to one of my people among you who is needy, do not
treat it like a business deal; charge no interest.
may not charge a fellow Israelite interest, so that the Lord your God may
bless you in everything you put your hand to in the land you are
entering to possess.
riches are seldom possessed by leaders of countries or corporations
without the oppression of their citizens, employees or investors.
Immense riches are seldom gained without the willingness to rape and
plunder the earth. Unlike
their neighbours, and unlike our modern industrial societies, people
in ancient Israel (those who atheists call dim-witted bronze-age goat
herders) were to make sure they did nothing to take advantage of each
Mercy and Justice were then and are today to be the hallmark of God's
Yesterday I posted "All Atheists Are Infected" regarding their apparent need to blame Christians for the world's problems.
serious is their hatred of Christianity that atheists will even
invent Christians to blame for violence that happens. Just a
couple of examples:
Do you remember Anders Breivik? He was a Norwegian goof who set off bombs and shot numerous young people. It was a horrific crime. So who
do you think atheists would accuse of committing such violence? Why,
Christians of course. Newspapers, Blogs, Tweets and Texts –
thousands of atheist messages from across Norway and around the world
claimed that Breivik was a Christian Fundamentalist.
there enough evidence for atheists to draw this conclusion?
see, Breivik had posted two comments on a Christian Fundamentalist
what's the problem? Doesn't that make Breivik and obvious Christian? Mmm, no. For starters Breivik is a Freemason. Google the relationship
between Christianity and Freemasonry. We consider it an
anti-Christian cult. Freemasons can't even become members of a
Christian Church. Some Fundamentalist that Breivik – eh? He was
also a supporter of the gay agenda. Again, a Christian
Fundamentalist? Hardly. He wasn't a member of any congregation and in
fact Breivik identified himself as more of a “spiritual” person
than anything resembling a follower of Jesus.
within days of the attack atheists around the world had worked
themselves into a frenzy about this Fundamentalist Christian bringing down yet another typical act of Christian violence on the world.
another example of atheists inventing Christians to hate.
Do you remember Timothy McVeigh? Another bomb. Almost a thousand
killed or injured. Was it the act of a Christian? Apparently that
conclusion depends on your world-view. Even though McVeigh
self-identified as an atheist, and wrote about his hated for the
Christian concept of God, the press and those on atheist blogs
immediately accused “another white-supremacist Christian” of the
regarding the man who said, “Science is my religion.”
from a man who said he had no fear of hell because such a place
sound like something a Christian would say, but that doesn't get in
the way of rabid atheists looking to take down a group who base their
lives on the most peaceful world-view to ever exist.
September 11, 2001, Muslims have perpetrated upon the world more than
17,000 terrorist attacks. And what do atheists say?
evangelise) like they are living herpes that have only the primal
urge to spread and infect.
blogger Chelsea Hoffman
“Religion poisons everything.”
why should we believe what atheists say? Because, if you can believe
atheists, they all have IQ's over a million and intelligent people
never make mistakes. Right? Never could atheists admit that it is we - humans - who poison religion. Never could atheists admit that it is we - humans - who poison everything. Never could atheists admit that it is we - humans - who bring down violence upon ourselves.
“Jesus still chooses
the lepers and the AIDS victims, the bullied kids from school, the
“fools” of this world to confound the wise with hope and justice.
In the company of Jesus, the ugly become beautiful and classroom
cowards become the bewildered heroes of His Kingdom.”
you've ever hung around with atheists for more than one second you've
no doubt heard that or something very similar.
Any unbiased person who ponders the wonders of Creation long enough
and considers how the universe must have come into existence, can't
help but worship the Creator. Worshipping the Creator leads to what
we call religion and for one very special reason (which I'll point
out later) religion has on occasion been involved with violence. So
if you haven't heard an atheist say, “Religion poisons everything,”
you've certainly heard an atheist say, “All the violence in the
world has been caused by religion.”
nod if you know what I'm talking about. Ya, that's what I thought.
to rational, logical people, such a statement sounds patently absurd,
irrational, illogical and well it should. To atheists however, their
thinking goes something like this:
Religion has been involved with violence
Therefore all violence is caused by religion
this becomes the belief of the atheist, s/he only notices religion
when it is tainted by violence. Anything good that's done in the name
of religion simply does not register in the atheist's brain. Anything
nasty that's been done, down through history, that has any connection
to religion, is now loaded onto all of present day Christianity.
Religious people flew planes into the World Trade towers. Didn't I
tell you Christians were dangerous?”
is this logical thinking? Is it only religion that is associated with
violence? And is it fair to label Christians as dangerous because of
what purist Muslims do, or because 5 abortion doctors have been
killed in the last 20 years? Is that reason enough to say that
Christians poison everything? I mean, couldn't we say things like:
poisons everything (Politics has been involved with violence);
poison everything (Atheists have been involved with violence);
entrenched is the atheist bias against Christianity, that they cannot
see the truth of the matter that I alluded to earlier. It isn't religion that poisons everything.
degree of human corruption is so great that even the most sublime world-view to ever exist cannot wholly remove that corruption from
our character. That will only be accomplished when our Creator and
Saviour arrives for the second time to make all things right by
removing all wrong.
Sadly, atheists can't allow themselves to accept the reality
that Humans poison religion, that in fact Humans poison everything. If atheists did accept this reality, they would have to admit that they are
part of the problem.
would have to admit that they stand in need of forgiveness.
would have to admit that they carry real and unresolved guilt.
would have to admit that even without God in their lives, they are
not good people.
Are some atheists better humans than some other humans? Sure. But good? Sadly, no. Atheists don't even live up to
their own moral standard of conduct. Because atheists say they don't
need God in order to be good, they must convince themselves that they
are good. This is done by having a very low “good enough”
threshold. On atheism, if you can identify a couple people who do
worse things that you do, that makes you a good person.
is what leads to the chronic infection from which all atheists suffer
– Blaming someone else (preferably Christians) for the problems of
what do you think? With God on our side like this, how can we lose?
If God didn’t hesitate to put everything on the line for us,
embracing our condition and exposing Himself to the worst by sending His own Son, is there anything else He wouldn’t gladly and freely
do for us?
And who would dare tangle with God by messing with one of
God’s chosen? Who would dare even to point a finger?
The One who
died for us—who was raised to life for us!—is in the presence of
God at this very moment sticking up for us. Do you think anyone is
going to be able to drive a wedge between us and Christ’s love for
us? There is no way!
Not trouble, not hard times, not hatred, not
hunger, not homelessness, not bullying threats, not backstabbing, not
even the worst sins listed in Scripture.
kill us in cold blood because they hate You. We’re sitting
ducks; they pick us off one by one.
of this fazes us because Jesus loves us.
I’m absolutely convinced
that nothing — nothing living or dead, angelic or demonic, today or
tomorrow, high or low, thinkable or unthinkable — absolutely nothing
can get between us and God’s love because of the way that Jesus
our Master has embraced us.
can't help but smile. Atheist blogs are declaring the amazing finding
of a “study.” Here's the conclusion: Atheists are more likely
to exist in those societies where our basic needs are met.
people are much more likely to ignore their need for God than are
poor people. If the tone of atheist blogs is any indication, that
conclusion appears to strike atheists as profound. Perhaps it is
profound. It's just that the same judgement was rendered -
by a guy that atheists despise and desperately try to ignore, AND
it was recorded in what atheists mock and ridicule as a bronze age
Book that was written by ignorant camel herders.
what this guy said 2,000 years before atheists came to the same
conclusion. “I tell you the truth, it is easier for a Camel to go
through the eye of a needle than for a rich person to enter the
Kingdom of Heaven”
you ever wondered why Jesus would say that? There are two reasons.
The Study only deals with one of them in an abstract form.
– No one comes to Jesus without God drawing that person. What's
more, no one comes to heaven without first coming by way of Jesus.
– Our corrupt human nature compels us to look everywhere, and I
mean EVERYWHERE except to our Creator for our sense of security and
belonging, for our sense of value and worth. And the first place that
we look for these things is to money and the security it pretends to
who are poor have no illusions that this world has the answer to our
deepest needs. The reason that prostitutes, drunks, thieves (both
street level and high rollers) and others who live on the fringes of
society flock to Jesus (both then and now), is that they know without
doubt that happiness is not tied up in things. They know at a
fundamental level that our most important longings run much, much
deeper than what possessions or power, or looks or relationships or
mood altering chemicals, or intelligence or education, or ( ) can touch.
rest of us however simply cannot shake the pseudo logic that we, on
our own, can solve our innermost problems. We're even so foolish as
to think that money will lead us to peace and happiness.
yes, I know it didn't work for those people, but for me it'll be
thing this study shows is that declaring oneself to be a atheist has
nothing at all to do with so called “evidence” or the perceived
lack thereof. Evidence wasn't required thousands of years ago for
people to deny the existence of Creator God and it isn't required
today. Becoming an atheist has everything to do with the delusion of
thinking that you are the captain of your fate, and the master of
your soul. Material wealth simply allows that line of thinking to
God has warned, “I will send a great delusion to those who choose
to reject Me.”
let the atheists go their own way. Let them live, smug in the
satisfaction that a study has shown us that the fastest way to forget
about our Creator is to provide ourselves with food, clothing and
shelter and medical care, and boats and cars and winter vacations and
houses with three or four car garages and a cabin at the lake and
ATV's and tv's and computers and recreational drugs – LOTS of
recreational drugs and casual sex and porn, and sporting events –
LOTS of sporting events and serial marriages and mind numbing sitcoms
and busyness – being busy is very important and religion and
“Causes” and, well, what amounts to one distraction after
how intelligent atheists must be to figure out, 2,000 years after camel herders declared it, that those things induce us
to ignore our Creator.
atheists felt left out during Obama's first Inauguration because he
said “So help me God," and placed his hand on one Bible,” how
abandoned must they feel this go-round when he said, “So help me
God" and placed his hand on TWO Bibles.”
that just another type of shout out to atheists?
“As Jesus began to fill
my heart with His love for people who are sick, people who were
suffering. I have just had an increasing willingness to pay whatever
it costs to be His hand and feet and His arms in this world, To pay
whatever price it takes to serve Christ.”
have had a most shameful and distressing interview with poor dear Tom
(T.S. Eliot), who may be called dead to us all from this day forward.
He has become a Christian, believes in God and immortality, and goes
to church. I was really shocked. A corpse would seem to me more
credible than he is. I mean, there's something obscene in a living
person sitting by the fire and believing in God.”
Woolf demonstrating contempt for her Creator
fact is, healthy people run from unhealthy people, and unhealthy
people find healthy people boring. The two are never attracted to
each other. If you are newly out of a relationship and you haven’t
had a HUGE awakening to the growth that needs to take place in you
and if you have not done anything to bring about that growth, then
you are not nearly ready for anything but more of the same.
of course raises the question, "How do I change my character?"
For those of you who aren’t Christians, I have wonderful news.
Jesus Christ loves you. He died for you and if you let Him He will
transform your life. For those of you who claim to be Christians, and
the negative thoughts and behaviours in this post are something that
you struggle with, then it’s time to get honest with yourself about
the value of trying to live a lifestyle that Jesus never sanctioned.
Either join the Baha’i or get serious about the One whose name you
represent. Remember that Jesus said, "The
one who loves Me is the one who obeys Me." For
both groups I would ask you to remember this line. When you find
yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is to stop digging.
next thing to do is admit that you are wrong. There is no point in
trying the same thing harder or longer if it isn’t working. A fact
of life is, Jesus can do nothing in us as long as there is any hint
of self-sufficiency. We are strangers on this earth. We don’t know
the way. Virtually every decision that we make, that isn’t made
with God / Bible as our road map, will take us down the wrong road.
This is especially the case in the area of relationships. Look back
over your life and you will see how true this is.
next thing to remember is Hebrews 4:16 - "So now we can boldly
and with confidence come to the throne of grace and receive mercy and
find grace in our time of need." Jesus isn’t like your human
parents. If you will simply humble yourself and tell Jesus that you
are sorry for rebelling against Him, He will welcome you home with
open arms. He loves you so much that He was willing to die for you.
That’s the kind of love you can trust. 1st John 1:9 tells us that
"If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will
forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness."
Your unrighteousness is what has gotten you into all this trouble.
Let Jesus get rid of it for you and you will be free to make
decisions that will benefit, instead of destroying you and those
will you find a healthy partner? It’s totally up to you. If you are
serious about not repeating past mistakes, don’t look for the right
person. Let Jesus change you and when you become the right kind of
person, the right kind of person for you will appear.
There is no other way out of this cycle unless we allow our Creator
to change us from the inside out. Romans 8:29 says that God's goal
for us during our time on earth is to be transformed into the
character of Jesus the Christ. It's what we need and it's what He
promises to do for us if we give Him full control of our lives. Good
luck on your journey.
marriages don’t just happen by luck. It takes quality people to
have a quality marriage. You don’t find the right person to have a
good marriage. To have a good marriage each of you has to be
the right person.
are very few people who don’t know of someone, usually a woman, of
whom it’s said, "if she could only find someone who would
treat her right." And this is often said as she is dragging her
children through the third or fourth lousy relationship with the next
creep who is ready to move in with her. I
repeat, it is impossible for someone who is not good, to treat you
good on a consistent long-term basis. That means that if you are not
good, then even you do not know how to be good to yourself. Your
character is rotting from the inside out and the stench of spiritual
death hovers about you. That’s why you continue to choose
self-harming behaviours, and that’s why you continue to reject
healthy, life-nurturing behaviours, and beliefs; because you are
unable to recognise them as such. Consider
the example of Actor / Comedian Groucho Marx. Mr. Marx recalls asking
a woman, "Would you have sex with me for One Million
responded with, "Of Course!" He
then asked, "Would you have sex with me for One Dollar?" To
which she replied, "What kind of a person do you think I
his reply was, "We’ve already established what kind of a
person you are. Now we’re just negotiating."
you are, counts! Character and beliefs count! Integrity
usually happens when two unhealthy people are attracted to each
other, is that their sickness causes them to misinterpret the
qualities that they think they see in the other person. As time wears
on, their mistake becomes painfully obvious. What was once seen as
fun-loving is now seen as irresponsible. Stable and structured
becomes rigid and boring. Concerned becomes smothering. Caring
becomes controlling. Outgoing becomes flirtatious. Carefree becomes
undependable. What once attracted you to this person, now drives you
away. But that isn’t his/her fault! When you grow tired of someone,
or when that person hurts you, don’t blame that person for being
the kind of person that you chose to be with. When you two met, it
was your sickness that projected good qualities that were never
me give you an example that is extreme in number but typical in
will never marry again." This was said by Barbara Hutton (who
was at the time heiress to the multi million-dollar Woolworth
fortune) after divorcing her second husband.
will never marry again. You can’t go on being a fool forever."
This was said by Barbara Hutton after divorcing her third
is positively my final marriage." This was said by Barbara
Hutton after marrying her sixth husband. "He
is the composite of all my previous husbands’ good qualities,
without any of their bad qualities. I have never been so happy in my
life." This was said by Barbara Hutton after marrying her
seventh husband. Two years later Barbara Hutton divorced her seventh
post listed traits of an emotionally and spiritually healthy person.
And before you say anything about the above list, YES these kinds of
people do exist. If you don’t know any, then you need to change
your circle of friends. The reason that these points are evidence of
emotional health is because I never see these kinds of people in
counselling for relationship issues. There is no need for them to
come for help because they have peace in their lives; they know the
Giver of peace on a personal level and they obey Him out of love and
appreciation for what He has done in their lives.
looking for a future partner, instead of looking for the quality
characteristics listed above, an unhealthy person might say something
like, "Can she dance?" "Is s/he cute?" "Does
he like to party?" "What kind of a car does he have?"
"Does she make a lot of money?" "Is he popular with
others?" "He’s kind of wild and dangerous, I like that."
They won’t care one bit if this is a person of integrity. Instead
their lives display a philosophy of "show me some attention and
I’m yours." Developing
a character of integrity is extremely important IF you want a quality
relationship. On the other hand, developing a character of integrity
is a side-benefit of receiving a healed, forgiven, personal
relationship with Jesus Christ. History is filled with examples of
the worst human beings having their character being completely turned
around after giving their lives to Jesus.
of all that, the facts of relationships are these: - .
As far as you are from emotional health, so too will someone be who
you are attracted to. .
As far as you are from emotional health, so too will someone be who
is attracted to you. . As far as you are from spiritual health, so
too that person. .
As far as you are from being ready for a healthy relationship, so too
a healthy relationship is not the same as being ready to have a
healthy relationship. That’s
why the statement "I think he/she will be good for me"
needs to be taken with a grain of salt. That person will be no better
for you than you are for that person.
might say at this point, but my boyfriend / girlfriend / husband /
wife is worse than I am. And I will say, if that’s the case it is
only because you have grown in maturity since you two met. When you
met, you two were roughly the same.
as a point of interest, let me ask you three simple questions. (1)
do you look at when judging whether a group photograph, that you’re
a part of, is good or not? (2)
you see yourself as being a better driver than most people you know?
Or do you see yourself as being a worse driver than most people you
you see yourself as being emotionally healthier and more mature than
your partner or former partners? Or are you less healthy and less
mature than your partner or former partners?
is the very rare person for whom one’s perceived self-importance
doesn’t show up in these questions. That is how out of touch we are
with the reality of our corrupt nature. So what has this got to do
with relationships? Well, it’s been my experience that most people
who get a divorce are so blind to their own personality that they
actually think that they’ll be good for someone else. The vast
majority of divorced people think the marriage ended, not because
they were miserable to live with, but that it’s the other person’s
fault that the marriage ended. It’s human nature to not recognise
our own corruption. I'm not being judgemental. I'm as blind to to my
degree of corruption as other people are to theirs. The reason you
don’t feel corrupt is the same reason a fish doesn’t feel wet.
Because it is immersed. You won’t recognise your corruption until
you find a way to step out of it and view it from a distance; until
you view yourself from Creator God's perspective. You
can’t know that you need to be rescued until you first recognise
that you’re lost.
back to relationships, let me give you an example of what I mean by
"We are roughly the same as those we attract." I hear from
clients on a fairly regular basis, "I’m not at all like my
spouse. He/she had an affair and I would never do that." I can
tell you that in virtually every case, with a little processing, it
soon comes out that if given the opportunity to have some ‘payback
sex’ soon after finding out about the affair, the person in my
office would have jumped at the chance. You might counter with,
"that’s different. That person had already been hurt."
And I will say to you, "It is no different at all!" What
we are measuring here is the quality of character, and a healthy
character is made of nothing less than emotional and spiritual
emotionally and spiritually healthy character is able to say "no"
to emotionally damaging thoughts and behaviours no matter how badly
that person wants what s/he wants. (2)
emotionally and spiritually healthy character does not go looking for
emotionally damaging thoughts and behaviours regardless of what’s
happened to that person.
me continue with the example of sex. Lets assume that someone other
than your spouse wants to have sex with you. If you are emotionally
and spiritually healthy you would be asking yourself, "Why would
I want to be with someone who is so cruel and so selfish that he/she
would do that to my spouse?" On the other hand, if you as a
married or c/l person are considering having sex with someone else
(especially if that person is also married), then the question I
would ask is, "Why would that
person want to be with someone like you, who is so cruel that you
would do that to either of your spouses?" What is it about you
that is attracting such an unhealthy person to you?
the answer for either of you is, "We find danger, cheating, and
snubbing God and His desires for us appealing and exciting," or
if you say that you don’t care about how your spouses feel, then I
would also say that emotionally and spiritually you are both in a
truly pitiful state. There is nothing in either of you from which you
can build a healthy relationship. Don’t get me wrong. You may be
able to have a relationship, but it will be no better than average,
Emotional Sickness is attracted to Emotional Sickness.
Health is attracted to Emotional Health. . You will not ever
attract a partner who is markedly healthier than you are. . If you
want to attract an emotionally and spiritually healthy partner, then
you must become an emotionally and spiritually healthy person
might be one of those people who got out of an unhealthy marriage,
and then you said, "Never again!" But it did happen again.
And maybe it happened again after that. So you wonder, "How
could that have happened when I was so determined to never let
another person into my life who didn’t respect me? And how could
that have happened, when I fully intended to find someone healthy?"
The reason it happens again and again is because it doesn’t matter
what you intend to happen. If your character hasn’t changed
significantly, and if your values and morals haven’t changed a
great deal, then nothing else will ever change and you will be with
an unhealthy person again. It can’t be any other way. Now,
this doesn’t mean that you have had, or that you will have the same
types of problems as a former or future partner. What it means is
that you are healthy or sick, to the same degree
that someone who is attracted to you is healthy or sick. For example,
lets say that a husband ignores his wife and is attracted to and
flirts with teenage girls. I think we’d all agree that this person
is emotionally unwell. However, I suggest to you, that the wife, who
says nothing, rationalises away his behaviours and does nothing to
protect her daughters, and their friends who have had to push off
this man’s advances is just as unwell as her husband. It’s just
that she is sick in a different way. Or
let’s take someone who is living with an alcoholic. People in the
field of addictions have all heard that "the family gets sick
along with the alcoholic." Well, the children will become sick,
but the spouse of the alcoholic was sick to begin with. That is why
s/he chose someone like that, usually with the goal of loving (read
controlling) the alcoholic better. I
wish this could be a cheery little post that leaves you feeling all
warm inside and confident about the future. But the reality of the
situation is this. When you have rebelled due to sin in your life,
and when you have ignored Jesus because it looked like a life without
Him would be more fun, it is in your relationships that this damage,
that this flaw, will show up most clearly. And the consequences can
last a lifetime. In
order to keep your children from suffering any more than they already
have, it’s time that you listen to Jesus’ commands about
relationships, marriage and divorce, and don’t go down this road
reason that I bring up divorce is that divorce and broken common-law
relationships are a sign that something is terribly wrong in a
person’s life. It’s a sign that there is something emotionally
and spiritually wrong, certainly in one and probably in both people
in the marriage. Divorce is a sign that either you have trouble
judging character in others, and/or that your character isn’t
suited to marriage. When God says don’t remarry after divorce, it’s
because He is trying to protect you from more pain by asking you to
not rely on the false god of relationships for your value, worth,
security and belonging. Unfortunately, we think we know more than our
Creator, and so we repeatedly try to prove that God is wrong. By
now you might be wondering what I’m talking about when I use the
terms emotionally damaged, or emotional health. After all, you don’t
feel damaged and you might even feel healthy. In fact some of your
friends are much worse off than you are. Right? Despite how healthy
you believe you are, based on the Bible and upon my observations from
counselling, I view Emotional Health this way: .
able to have stability in relationships. .
honesty and integrity, ie. you don’t lie; not just ‘big’ lies,
but any lie. .
not have to do what you want to do. In other words, you are able to
say "no" to something wrong or harmful, no matter how much
you want it. The opposite is just as true. Emotional health is when
you’re able to make yourself do a good job at something that you
don’t want to do. .
able to distinguish wrong, harmful, life-destroying behaviours from
good, healthy, life-enhancing behaviours. For example, do you
actually know whether living together before marriage is damaging or
constructive for a future marriage? How about stealing a little bit
from a big company? Is that always harmful or is it sometimes OK? Do
you know the answer? .
matches your outside. Who you are in private is who you are in
by a Moral Code not of your own creation, ie. right and wrong are not
relative to the situation. .
need to be in a relationship to feel whole and OK about yourself. .
responsible and mature in thought, word and deed. A
person with these qualities will not attract, nor will he/she be
attracted to an emotionally unhealthy person. An emotionally,
spiritually and psychologically unhealthy person will find the kind
of person just described above to be boring and unattractive.
Unhealthy people view kindness and goodness as being weak. For
example, an unhealthy person will try to provoke an angry response or
a rejecting response in her/his marriage partner. And when the
negative response isn’t forthcoming, the unhealthy person will view
the other as a wimp.
religious impulse is summed up in the kiss of Judas
we live our lives suggests that we are fundamentally opposed to Jesus
and His teaching, but we will nevertheless use Him for financial gain
and to fulfil our own agenda while externally displaying terms of
wonder the secular world gags on our witness.
with no personal worship life think they can teach others about
who feel little or no gratitude tell others to be thankful.
who are governed by pride speak of the importance of humility.
who have no relationship with Jesus try to tell others of salvation.
You wouldn't reject Mozart as a composer because of how I play his music. Don't
be so foolish as to reject Jesus because of my behaviours.
almost impossible to listen to the News any day without the word
“corruption” being used multiple times to describe human nature.
To follow Jesus will never make you perfect.
To follow Jesus will
allow for the forgiveness of real sin, and free you from real guilt.
of the sad facts of Christian life is that we can “feel” close to
God and at the same time harbour in our lives the most horrendous
sin. While that is sad, it should not surprise. Sin's deceitful
nature blinds us to its existence in our lives. It's no different for atheists who honestly believe they are good people. Witness Lance Armstrong who finally came to realize that "I'm a deeply flawed bully." So what's to be done?
How are we to become aware of that which is hidden? And if it isn't
hidden, if we've had a glimpse of what we're like, how can the
presence of sin become so real to us that we can no longer deny its place in our lives? Well, the answer entails one of the things
that atheists say is evidence that God Himself does not exist –
pain, suffering, loss and so on. We've all heard it. “How can a
loving God allow pointless suffering?”
believe with all my heart that:
we are followers of Jesus,
we want to become like Jesus
God's goal for us is to become like Jesus (Rom. 8:29),
every single difficulty (which is often the consequence of sin) that
God allows into our lives is meant to raise to the surface in us
those characteristics that are in greatest need of change. Again, the Armstrong case.
Most of us spend so much time trying to stop the discomfort that
problems generate in our lives that we completely miss the learning
that God is trying to instill into our hearts in the midst of our
problems. If this learning is missed, if this change is missed, the
eternal value of this whole process will be minimal.
For those who are on their way to hell, suffering, loss and pain
really are pointless things that randomly happen in life.
For the rest of us, if God wants to change our character, and He
does, then He will present us with exactly those challenges that at
the very least give us the opportunity to grow into the character or
believe that no matter how long we've been disciples of Jesus, every
single one of us is in desperate need of learning more mercy, more
forgiveness and becoming more loving toward those who have offended
to atheists and their hyper allergic reaction to suffering. One of
Jesus' disciples, Peter, writes about suffering, “To this you were
called because Jesus suffered for you, leaving you an example that
you should follow in His steps. When they hurled their insults at
Him, He did not retaliate; when He suffered He made no threats.
Instead, He entrusted Himself to Him who judges justly. So do not
repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing because
to this your were called.” 1st Peter 2: 20-23,3:9.
from the book that atheists say can be used to justify violence
Our suffering is not an accident. Using the suffering that humans
invited into the world for our growth and development is part of
God's plan for us.
Jesus didn't retaliate when insulted. We are to follow His example.
Jesus didn't fight back when He suffered. God will make things right
in the end. On atheism there is no ultimate justice. On Christianity
ultimate justice is guaranteed.
Jesus set the example we're to follow. If we love Jesus we will obey
uses difficult people and events to raise to our awareness our fears
and insecurities, our irritability / anger / rage and bitterness, our
dependencies / addictions, our selfishness, corrupt self-love and
unwillingness to forgive.
are the things that God wants to remove from your life! And when He
does remove this crud, what's left is the ability to love others as
He loves us.
run from your pain. Don't try to destroy those who cause you pain.
Instead, grab hold of Jesus' hand and with your eyes wide open and
your chest bared to the blast of life's pain, step into your pain
with the knowledge that in all things God will, if you allow Him,
transform your character into that of Jesus the Christ.
and for what it's worth. The only way that suffering can be pointless
is if God does not exist.
you ever done that? Before the days of GPS, at least a couple times
I’ve been driving along, looking for a certain business and had to
turn back because I drove right by the place. The sign was large. The
claim,“You can’t miss it,” had it been made, would have been
But miss it I did.
the same with the fact that, “The glory of God is us fully alive.”
a message that's written all through Scripture.
do we miss it?
is, we’ve had help. We've been purposely distracted. Like kids
fighting in the back seat, our concentration has been divided. In the
same manner when we read the Bible satan is there to distract us. his
main task in life is to block us from finding life.
offers to make us fully alive.
has come to steal, kill and destroy, to maim and mangle and cripple.
takes steely concentration to grasp the former and avoid the latter.
you ever heard of original sin? Of course you have. The problem with
that concept is that before sin there was original glory.
Before hate, love was here first.
didn’t come to earth to bring us to glory.
came to restore us to glory.
came to take our shame and bring us safely home to the greatest love
in the universe.
miss this opportunity. You may not get the chance to turn around and
of the specific references to slavery in the Bible seem to sanction
is a statement that you can read in a recent post. Either this person
is Biblically illiterate and is simply throwing out statements about
which he knows nothing at all. Or, I would have to suppose that he is
deliberately trying to mislead those who would love to believe what
he’s just said. It’s
true that slavery in New Testament times, and Old Testament times for
that matter, was a fact of life. It still is a fact of life in most countries in the world. But it certainly wasn’t acceptable
for Paul, Jesus or any of the other New Testament writers. So why
didn’t Jesus spend His time on earth trying to rid the world of
this despicable practice? Well, He did, in a way. In fact He brought
freedom from the effects of slavery to any and to all who wanted that
freedom. You see, Christianity is about a relationship with one’s
Creator that brings freedom despite circumstance. Jesus says that a
life of integrity, meaning, context and purpose can be had no matter
what one’s station in life, no matter what one’s race, no matter
what one’s nationality, no matter what one’s gender. In one
particular passage, Paul is addressing slavery when he says, "Each
one should remain in the situation which he was in when God called
him. Were you a slave when you were called? Don't let it trouble you
. . ." I
suppose that if you stop there, you could have the beginnings of a
case that Jesus thought slavery was no big deal. However Paul goes on
to say, "although if you can gain your freedom, do so" 1st
Corinthians chapter 7. Paul is saying, ‘slavery is not good, escape
it you can; but neither is slavery the most important thing in this
life’. Paul is saying, ‘don’t be distracted from the most
important thing in life, by something that is less important’. ‘There
are no references in the Bible that don’t sanction slavery’?
Hardly! In fact because of the way that slavery is usually carried
out, Paul announces in 1st Timothy 1:10 that 'those who take part in
the trading of slaves will deserve eternity in hell'. The reason I
say, "The way that slavery is usually carried out," is
because slavery in ancient Hebrew society served as an important
social safety net. There wasn’t any welfare system. There wasn’t
any unemployment insurance. Many times, the only way to feed oneself
and one’s family was to sell oneself into slavery. Nevertheless,
human nature led back then, and has led right up to the present day
to horrendous abuses. This is the world that we have chosen to create
for ourselves. Since
all people are desperately wicked, desperately wicked people are all
God has to work with. That is why He laid down guidelines for the
‘given’ practice of slavery in ancient Hebrew culture. God works with us where we're at. That is why it's foolish to judge 1st century Israel through the lens of 21st century America. Jesus is
saying to those who lived in a society where slavery was normal
practice, "Masters, treat your slaves in the same way [with
respect]. Do not threaten them, since you know that He who is both
their Master and yours is in heaven, and there is no favoritism with
Him, Ephesians 6:9. And Colossians 4:1 Masters, provide your slaves
with what is right and fair, because you know that you also have a
Master in heaven. Is
slavery as it is usually carried out supported or sanctioned in the
Bible? Absolutely not. Is it accepted as a fact of life? Yes. God has
accepted, for a time, the world that we have chosen for ourselves.
And to that end, just like cancer, earthquakes, war and other events
that bring difficulty in our lives, God provides a means of coping in
a healthy manner with things that can’t be changed.