Atheists and Pagans are once again pushing the line that humans aren't made for monogamous marriage.
They're right. In our natural state we are built for greed, corrupt self-love and to use and abuse others for our own selfish gain. The kind of giving and "other love" that is required to make a monogamous marriage work is not who we are in our natural state.
If you are struggling in your marriage, and if you are a follower of Jesus, cheer up. The new is good. The beauty of where you’re at, is that these difficulties are giving you the opportunity the live Christianity at its purist.
For example: God doesn’t love us because of who we are. God loves us because of who He is.
God doesn’t love us because we have value. We have value because God loves us.
God says, be like Me. Follow Me. Do what I do.
And what does God do? God loves those who are difficult to love.
At this stage of marital recovery, you are being asked to love someone who is, at present at least, difficult to love.
That’s why, when we cry out to God, “But Lord, look how I’m being treated!” God says,
“Love your enemy.
Do good to the one who is treating you badly.
Pray for the one who is making your life difficult.
Don’t worry about being loved in return.
Don’t worry about it feeling unfair.
Just do it.
Just treat your partner with love, because that is what I do for you, and My promise in Romans 8:29 is that I can use all things to help you become like Me.”