Quality
marriages don’t just happen by luck. It takes quality people to
have a quality marriage. You don’t find the right person to have a
good marriage. To have a good marriage each of you has to be
the right person.
There
are very few people who don’t know of someone, usually a woman, of
whom it’s said, "if she could only find someone who would
treat her right." And this is often said as she is dragging her
children through the third or fourth lousy relationship with the next
creep who is ready to move in with her.
I repeat, it is impossible for someone who is not good, to treat you good on a consistent long-term basis. That means that if you are not good, then even you do not know how to be good to yourself. Your character is rotting from the inside out and the stench of spiritual death hovers about you. That’s why you continue to choose self-harming behaviours, and that’s why you continue to reject healthy, life-nurturing behaviours, and beliefs; because you are unable to recognise them as such.
Consider the example of Actor / Comedian Groucho Marx. Mr. Marx recalls asking a woman, "Would you have sex with me for One Million dollars?"
She responded with, "Of Course!"
He then asked, "Would you have sex with me for One Dollar?"
To which she replied, "What kind of a person do you think I am?"
And his reply was, "We’ve already established what kind of a person you are. Now we’re just negotiating."
I repeat, it is impossible for someone who is not good, to treat you good on a consistent long-term basis. That means that if you are not good, then even you do not know how to be good to yourself. Your character is rotting from the inside out and the stench of spiritual death hovers about you. That’s why you continue to choose self-harming behaviours, and that’s why you continue to reject healthy, life-nurturing behaviours, and beliefs; because you are unable to recognise them as such.
Consider the example of Actor / Comedian Groucho Marx. Mr. Marx recalls asking a woman, "Would you have sex with me for One Million dollars?"
She responded with, "Of Course!"
He then asked, "Would you have sex with me for One Dollar?"
To which she replied, "What kind of a person do you think I am?"
And his reply was, "We’ve already established what kind of a person you are. Now we’re just negotiating."
Who you are, counts!
Character and beliefs count!
Integrity counts!
What
usually happens when two unhealthy people are attracted to each
other, is that their sickness causes them to misinterpret the
qualities that they think they see in the other person. As time wears
on, their mistake becomes painfully obvious. What was once seen as
fun-loving is now seen as irresponsible. Stable and structured
becomes rigid and boring. Concerned becomes smothering. Caring
becomes controlling. Outgoing becomes flirtatious. Carefree becomes
undependable. What once attracted you to this person, now drives you
away. But that isn’t his/her fault! When you grow tired of someone,
or when that person hurts you, don’t blame that person for being
the kind of person that you chose to be with. When you two met, it
was your sickness that projected good qualities that were never
there.
Let me give you an example that is extreme in number but typical in nature.
"I will never marry again." This was said by Barbara Hutton (who was at the time heiress to the multi million-dollar Woolworth fortune) after divorcing her second husband.
"I will never marry again. You can’t go on being a fool forever." This was said by Barbara Hutton after divorcing her third husband.
"This is positively my final marriage." This was said by Barbara Hutton after marrying her sixth husband.
"He is the composite of all my previous husbands’ good qualities, without any of their bad qualities. I have never been so happy in my life." This was said by Barbara Hutton after marrying her seventh husband. Two years later Barbara Hutton divorced her seventh husband.
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