Homosexual Marriage Wrecks Marriage?

I saw a blog yesterday where the writer was lamenting Christian Churches that create out-groups (in this case homosexuals) in order to make the in-group more cohesive. It was to me, a heartbreaking post.

“there was absolutely nothing in the Bible that condemns same-sex love and, in fact, the Bible actually affirms same-sex love.”

“Nowhere is same-sex love condemned in the Bible! In fact, it is affirmed, most notably in the case of King David (called “a man after God’s own heart”) and Jonathan. Even a cursory reading of their relationship in 1Samuel shows David to have been either bisexual or a gay man!”

These are just two of the many quotes from that post that demonstrate the contortions that humans are willing to subject themselves to in order to resist sexual purity as is called for by our Creator. As far as creating out-groups goes, I understand that there are some congregations that do this. On the other hand, I’ve attended conservative evangelical congregations (5) for all of my thirty years as a Christian and not once have I heard a sermon regarding homosexuality. The focus has always been on encouraging the desire in Christians to obey God.

I’ve always been taught that Christians should be a group of people who long to follow Jesus, who hunger and thirst for righteousness even when what Jesus asks us to do seems completely counter intuitive:

“love your enemy,”

“find yourself through denying self,”

“finding life by dying to self,”

“win through losing,”

“the first will be last”

Whether the topic is divorce and remarriage, or adultery, or coveting, or greed, or addictions, or dishonesty, or rage and bitterness,

Christians should not be people, like the author of this post, who look for ways to exclude themselves from what Jesus says to do or not do.

Christians should not be people, like the author of this post, who want to see their lives as exceptions to obeying Jesus' guidelines.

“The one who loves Me is the one who obeys Me.”

I’ve tried to stay away from the whole homosexual issue on this blog. I don’t want to hurt and it’s and issue that so easily hurts. However, the idea that allowing homosexuals to get married will ruin marriage / family / society is in my mind ludicrous.

It's a society that has already devalued marriage and life itself that condones homosexuality and abortion and multiple sexual partners, and divorce and remarriage. It’s a society that is already supremely dysfunctional that thinks who ever happens to be living in your house at the time constitutes a family, or a home for that matter.

I don’t know what it’s like in the States but in Canada, several decades ago already, those people who are living common-law were given the same legal rights (income tax, property rights etc.) as those who are legally married. The laws changed with hardly a ripple of dissent. In my mind THAT is when society gave up on marriage and the family. For people to say nothing about common-law relationships but kick up a stink over homosexuals becoming legally attached really is bigotry in its truest form.

. Is homosexuality morally wrong? Well, from our Creator’s perspective, absolutely. The depth of this relational disorder is seen in the quote above regarding the friendship between David and Jonathan. So sexually disoriented are those who praise and promote homosexuality that they cannot conceive of a deep same sex friendship without it having become sexualised. And that’s what makes homosexuality so perverted (in the clinical sense). Emotional needs have become sexualised. That is terribly unhealthy and THAT is why God says that it is wrong.

. Should homosexuals care that God says it’s wrong? Only those who want to follow Jesus as Saviour and Lord.

. Should homosexuals be discriminated against because of it? Absolutely not. If we were to discriminate against people based on our desire to justify our sins, none of us would be allowed to go anywhere or do anything.

. We are all natural born sinners; we are all called to rein in and take control of, not celebrate, our natural born tendency to rebel against God’s teaching.

. Will homosexuals getting married wreck the institution of marriage? It won’t wreck my marriage nor that of anyone else who is married in the Christian sense.

. Will homosexuals getting married wreck society and the family unit upon which a healthy society is built? Naw. That happened a long time ago.

When the majority of people push for homosexuals or common-law partners, or polygamists or any other similar relationship to be recognised as equal to marriage as instituted by God between a man and a woman, that is not the cause of the collapse of marriage or the family or society.

Rather, these things are a symptom of a society that is already deeply and perhaps mortally wounded.